Middled Aged Internet Dating

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I'd like the advice of the esteemed & wise people on askaboutmoney about internet dating. I'm a professional man in my late 40s, seperated and living in Dublin Area. Trying the old internet dating with elite singles at the moment, but just being paired with people who live miles away or who are clearly completely incompatible. A good number of the people have no pics up or almost no info. Any recommendations for the best site for internet dating for someone my age who would like to meet someone for a serious relationship ( no jokes about tinder please!)
 
I watched a program that number crunched the dating sites, using sound mathematical principals. The result - you need an average of 700 responses/contacts to get a worthwhile date. So the odds are long, but possible.

I know you don't want to hear it, but my view is that the old methods - clubs/social events/adult education courses (where you find people of similar interests) are my recommendation. Especially so in your age bracket (no insult intended - I'm in my 50s).


Also, have you tried First Dates? :) - do let us know if you are to appear.
 
You could try 'Meetup.com' its actually not a dating site, more a site for people who share various interests, walking,, art, sport,,, meeting new people,,, whatever,,, I know a girl who met her husband there... (and its free)
 
I have heard a lot of positive things about 'Elite singles' but have no personal experience.
 
willyfones said:
You could try 'Meetup.com' its actually not a dating site, more a site for people who share various interests, walking,, art, sport,,, meeting new people,,, whatever,,, I know a girl who met her husband there... (and its free)
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Anybody else with the Pina Colada song going through their head now?

"If you like pina colada, and getting caught in the rain, if you're not into health foods, if you're into champagne"

(sorry, couldn't help myself).
 
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Thanks for your replys. It does work for some people. My own view is that a paid website is likely to attract people who ae "serious" about meeting someone. Any views on sites other than elitesingles or PoF?
 
I met my wife on OkCupid.com. Both of us were in our early thirties at the time. She seems nice :)

As a man, you will be competing for attention amongst a very large number of pick up artists, time wasters and perverts.

I believe that this is slightly less of an issue on OkCupid than Plenty of Fish (which I've also used). I think POF has a larger membership and slightly younger demographic. There may be a site with a slightly older demographic than OkCupid again, but it would probably have a smaller membership again. In general I think the smaller the membership the lower the percentage of (male) time wasters, so it's a trade off. OkCupid seemed a reasonable balance for me.

If you tailor your message to the recipient (ask about something in one of their photos, or a hobby they mention, etc.) you'll immediately be ahead 90% of men who just send "Hi" to every single female account. (or so I've been told). Make sure your profile has something for them to ask you about.

I think I paid ten quid a month for OkCupid when I got serious about it. The main benefit as far as I was concerned was that this allows you see who has viewed your profile. In my experience Irish women are unlikely to make first contact, so someone viewing your profile twice is the equivalent of locking eyes across a crowded room.

This is just my perspective. I think what you really need is advice from female members of AAM who have experience of online dating in Ireland.
 
Meeting someone in the flesh in a bar or club is far superior even in these techno times. A lot of times the profile and pictures are glammed up using filters etc , the reality is far less appealing. Unfortunately though the bars and clubs are still shut, another issue is that during the lockdown many people might have paired up even though they had not met their ideal date due to the social cache associated with couples which increased dramatically during the corona virus, there were very few outlets for single people
 
What else do you expect when hosting events for the Oireachtas Opus Dei Society.

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I heard a longstanding web dating owner / operator of an Irish site on the radio discussing online dating about a year ago and they said the biggest impediment to meeting someone is the unrealistic parameters which the prospective daters set. In mens' case it was always about seeking a MUCH younger partner ( 40 / 45 year old men wanting to meet 25 - 30 year old women and 55 - 70 year old men wanting to meet women in their 30's and early 40's. Thus ruling out women their own age who might be perfectly lovely and with whom, presumably they would have much more in common.

For women their pre-requisites were an equal or superior educational standard. As women are much more likely to have higher education then this creates a very limited pool and of course rules out large numbers of great potential partners who might be tradesmen or workmen etc who might not have graduate or post grad status.

The other impediment was a reluctance to travel outside of their area / county.

Apparently a lot of time was spent administering a reality check to many people when deciding their 'Would Like To Meet' descriptions.
 
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