Hello. I'm in a difficult situation in my personal circumstances and I'm at my wits end trying to find piece of mind or certainty around my future. I'm hoping I'm can get some non judgemental advice and hope for my future.
I bought a house with my now ex-boyfriend some years and then we split up. It was a messy break up and he now lives in Canada (legally). Foolishly when we split up, I left the home and rented elsewhere. Unbeknownst to me he rented the house out and moved to Canada. Eventually he stopped paying his share of the mortgage and the bank came after me.
Here's the bit that makes my case more unusual than most. I've a good job and career. I tried to negotiate a deal with the bank but ultimately mortgages are joint and severally liable. They don't care if one person is no longer around, they just want to be paid. I offered to voluntarily surrender keys and asked about doing a deal on the negative equity (about 250k). They offered no solutions other than suggesting I buy out the mortgage with a friend or family member.
I realised I wasn't getting anywhere. None of the agencies that are set up for those in trouble could help as I was in an unusual position. They all said take the approach of wait and see.
Eventually the house was repossessed. Now I'm being pursued for the negative equity in full while my ex has been left alone.
I've no idea what to do next. As this has been going on a long time, I'm now happily married and expecting my first child. I live in rented accommodation with my husband. I have a good job but my salary couldn't possibly cover the mortgage in full. My husband obviously had no interest in being involved in the property.
What are my options? I'm completely overwhelmed with the insolvency options. My job is highly stressed and Id rather quit than continue to work a 60 hour week to be giving it all away to service a debt. Should I try negotiate direct with the bank outside of the insolvency process? Should I ignore the situation? Could the sheriff break into where I live now (rented accommodation) and seize my husband's goods because we are married?
Id like to reach a reasonable solution with the bank so that I can begin to have certainty on my future. This has been going on for almost 10 years now in total and my health has really suffered this past year.
Any advice on what I should do?
I bought a house with my now ex-boyfriend some years and then we split up. It was a messy break up and he now lives in Canada (legally). Foolishly when we split up, I left the home and rented elsewhere. Unbeknownst to me he rented the house out and moved to Canada. Eventually he stopped paying his share of the mortgage and the bank came after me.
Here's the bit that makes my case more unusual than most. I've a good job and career. I tried to negotiate a deal with the bank but ultimately mortgages are joint and severally liable. They don't care if one person is no longer around, they just want to be paid. I offered to voluntarily surrender keys and asked about doing a deal on the negative equity (about 250k). They offered no solutions other than suggesting I buy out the mortgage with a friend or family member.
I realised I wasn't getting anywhere. None of the agencies that are set up for those in trouble could help as I was in an unusual position. They all said take the approach of wait and see.
Eventually the house was repossessed. Now I'm being pursued for the negative equity in full while my ex has been left alone.
I've no idea what to do next. As this has been going on a long time, I'm now happily married and expecting my first child. I live in rented accommodation with my husband. I have a good job but my salary couldn't possibly cover the mortgage in full. My husband obviously had no interest in being involved in the property.
What are my options? I'm completely overwhelmed with the insolvency options. My job is highly stressed and Id rather quit than continue to work a 60 hour week to be giving it all away to service a debt. Should I try negotiate direct with the bank outside of the insolvency process? Should I ignore the situation? Could the sheriff break into where I live now (rented accommodation) and seize my husband's goods because we are married?
Id like to reach a reasonable solution with the bank so that I can begin to have certainty on my future. This has been going on for almost 10 years now in total and my health has really suffered this past year.
Any advice on what I should do?