louthman2013
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Hello, I know that this may not be an appropriate posting for askaboutmoney, but I'm, just firing this off anyway.
I'm in the middle of a marriage separation, and am trying to work out child access arrangements. I will be the non-resident parent, and my wife will be the resident parent. There are four kids, aged 3,7, 10 & 11. All boys except the 11 year old. We will both be living in the same area ultimately, perhaps within extended walking distance. I have no back -up with kids from family etc as my parents are elderly/ siblings are abroad. My wife has plenty of back -up. The 3 older kids are involved in a lot of sport (GAA / soccer) on sat am & pm, 3 year can't really be dragged along to the sidelines.
Thus minding 4 kids on my own is tricky for me, especially with a 3 year old (although this will get easier as time passes). There is outline agreement between myself and my wife that she will have the kids 5 days and I will have them 2 days, but details not worked out.No discussion around special events like Christmas etc. Relationship is poor with my wife at present,despite my best efforts to be polite.
Just wondering how it could be worked out? Maybe I have the kids every second weekend (Friday PM- Sunday PM or Saturday AM to Monday AM?) ; and then one overnight midweek every week? Some people have suggested that as the 3 year old is still quite young, I would have him for say half the weekend for the first 2 years, until he get to age 5. So if I had the Friday PM to Sunday PM for example, I would have the 3 year old from Sat 5pm.
Any thoughts or ideas on this, or alternative suggestions? Thanks in advance
I'm in the middle of a marriage separation, and am trying to work out child access arrangements. I will be the non-resident parent, and my wife will be the resident parent. There are four kids, aged 3,7, 10 & 11. All boys except the 11 year old. We will both be living in the same area ultimately, perhaps within extended walking distance. I have no back -up with kids from family etc as my parents are elderly/ siblings are abroad. My wife has plenty of back -up. The 3 older kids are involved in a lot of sport (GAA / soccer) on sat am & pm, 3 year can't really be dragged along to the sidelines.
Thus minding 4 kids on my own is tricky for me, especially with a 3 year old (although this will get easier as time passes). There is outline agreement between myself and my wife that she will have the kids 5 days and I will have them 2 days, but details not worked out.No discussion around special events like Christmas etc. Relationship is poor with my wife at present,despite my best efforts to be polite.
Just wondering how it could be worked out? Maybe I have the kids every second weekend (Friday PM- Sunday PM or Saturday AM to Monday AM?) ; and then one overnight midweek every week? Some people have suggested that as the 3 year old is still quite young, I would have him for say half the weekend for the first 2 years, until he get to age 5. So if I had the Friday PM to Sunday PM for example, I would have the 3 year old from Sat 5pm.
Any thoughts or ideas on this, or alternative suggestions? Thanks in advance